Relationships, labor & mental load
- The invisible work behind everyday life
- Household labor and mental load
- Fairness, ownership, and resentment
- What couples are actually arguing about when they argue about chores
- How expectations shape relationships
Speaking & teaching
I teach the things I keep seeing.
My work has always involved asking questions, making connections, and helping people think differently about things they may have stopped noticing. I speak and teach about relationships, family life, household labor, identity, work, belief, and the expectations we inherit about how a life is supposed to look.
Educator first
I was teaching long before I became a therapist.
I spent sixteen years working across higher education and international nonprofit spaces. I have taught college students, worked in educational and community settings, facilitated conversations, and spent much of my professional life helping people engage complex ideas.
My current speaking brings that educator's background together with my work as a therapist, researcher, and founder. The result is not a pivot into something new. It is a continuation of what I have always done: ask better questions and help people see what they might have missed.
What we can talk about
Some conversations are worth having out loud.
These are conversation areas and examples of what I can speak about. Each one can be adapted to the audience, setting, and time available.
Family, roles & expectations
- The roles families give us
- Changing family roles across adulthood
- Caregiving, responsibility, and competing expectations
- What happens when family expectations stop fitting
Neurodivergence & everyday life
- Neurodivergence beyond productivity
- ADHD, relationships, and household life
- Expectations about how people are 'supposed' to function
- Building lives around how people actually work
Faith, identity & deconstruction
- What happens when beliefs change
- Religious deconstruction and identity
- Family and community relationships when faith shifts
- Meaning-making beyond inherited answers
Career, identity & reinvention
- When the career you built no longer fits
- Career tunnel vision
- Identity beyond credentials and professional achievement
- Changing direction without treating your previous life as wasted
- The stories we inherit about success
Holistic & integrative wellbeing
- Thinking about wellbeing beyond one part of a person
- Mind, body, relationships, meaning, and environment
- Nature, reflection, and the ways we create space to think differently
- What a whole-person perspective changes about the questions we ask
A conversation I keep returning to
Who is carrying what, and how did it become theirs?
Household labor provides a window into larger questions about gender, expectations, invisible responsibility, fairness, communication, and the roles people inherit or assume.
This work connects my research, my therapy practice, and the tool I built with Nilea. It is one place where the different parts of my professional life come together. It is not the only thing I speak about, but it is a conversation I keep returning to because it touches so many other questions.
Explore NileaIn the room
I want people thinking, talking, and leaving with something useful.
I am warm, direct, conversational, and research-informed. I am comfortable with complexity and willing to ask difficult questions. I do not simply present information.
I help audiences notice assumptions, connect ideas to everyday life, and consider what they might do differently with what they now see. My goal is to leave people with a better question than the one they walked in with.
Ways to work together
Different rooms need different conversations.
Topics and format can be adapted to the audience, setting, and amount of time available.
- Keynotes and talks
- Interactive workshops
- Panels and moderated conversations
- Guest lectures and classroom conversations
- Professional and organizational trainings
Bring me into the room.
I work with a wide range of groups and settings. If you are wondering whether the conversation fits your audience, the easiest next step is to ask.
- Conferences
- Universities and colleges
- Professional organizations
- Mental health and helping-profession audiences
- Workplaces and organizations
- Community organizations
- Relationship and family-focused events
What conversation does your room need to have?
Tell me about your audience, what you are thinking about, and what you want the conversation to make possible.