Keynote
Forty-five to sixty minutes, with time for questions. Best for conferences and larger events.
Speaking
The invisible load is not a soft topic.
Talks and workshops on household labor, relationships, and the work nobody assigned.
Why audiences respond to this.
Most rooms have never heard household labor described as a system. They have heard it described as a complaint. When you name the mechanism, the manager and helper pattern, the difference between noticing and doing, the room shifts. People recognize their own homes in it, often uncomfortably.
I spent sixteen years teaching at the university level and working in international nonprofits before I trained as a therapist. Both are jobs where you find out quickly whether a room is with you. What I care about is that people leave with something they can use, not something they only agreed with.
What I speak about.
01
The invisible load
What household labor actually consists of, why the mental work is invisible by design, and why splitting chores fifty-fifty so often changes nothing.
02
The manager and the helper
How one partner becomes the household manager, what it costs both people, and what it does to a relationship over years rather than weeks.
03
What the load does to intimacy
The connection between carrying a household and losing desire. Resentment, exhaustion, and the erosion of partnership into logistics.
04
Household equity and the workplace
Why the division of labor at home shows up in retention, absenteeism, and promotion rates at work, particularly for working mothers.
Formats.
Workshop
Ninety minutes to a half day. Interactive, built around the Balancing Acts assessment, so participants leave with their own results.
Corporate training
For employee resource groups, working parent programs, and leadership teams. Household equity framed as a retention and performance issue.
Podcast and media
Available for interviews on household labor, the mental load, and relational equity.
What organizers can expect.
- A talk built for your specific audience, not a generic version
- Promotional copy and a bio delivered ahead of the event
- Slides provided in advance if your venue requires them
- Available in person and virtually
Let’s talk about your event.
Tell me about your audience, your date, and what you are hoping people walk away with. Speaking fees are provided on request.
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