Nilea

See where the load actually falls.

Nilea is the app I built to put Balancing Acts in couples’ hands. Both partners answer the same questions independently. The results show where the work sits, and where the two of you see it differently.

The assessment is free. It takes about ten minutes.

Start free at nilea.app

The gap is the point.

Most tools tell you who did what. Nilea shows you something harder to see: where your two accounts of the same household disagree.

One partner is certain the work is shared. The other is certain it is not. Both are describing the household honestly. Answering separately turns that into something you can look at together instead of argue about.

How it works.

  1. 01

    One of you starts

    Sign up and take the assessment. Twenty-three to twenty-nine questions depending on your household, about ten minutes.

  2. 02

    Invite your partner

    They answer the same questions independently, without seeing your answers.

  3. 03

    See the results together

    Where the load falls, weighted for each partner’s hours and capacity, and where your two pictures diverge.

  4. 04

    Come back to it

    Retake the assessment anytime to see what has actually shifted.

The full assessment is free for both partners and stays free. A paid tier with structured skill-building is coming.

Start with the assessment.

Ten minutes, both partners, no cost.

Go to nilea.app